It might sound like an odd question: Does the Valentine's weekend around the corner make you anxious? Is the holiday making you sad this year? Are you just waiting for the big disappointment to which you have become accustomed in the past years?
If you are feeling conflicted about getting a divorce, you are certainly not alone. Divorce is a major decision that will impact nearly every aspect of your life, as well as the lives of your children. When the stakes are this high, it is natural to have some doubts.
The first step in a divorce is making the decision to end the marriage. Once that emotional decision is made, the formal process begins. You need to file the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage papers in your area, papers that will be served to your spouse.
Normally, when Illinoisans read about divorce or talk to their friends and family about it, a common refrain is that the process is long, messy and expensive. Often that sentiment is correct. Many divorces center on couples who can no longer work constructively together to sort through difficult issues like alimony, child custody and property division. That makes sense. After all, the inability to function together is a typical symptom of a couple seeking to part ways. But not every divorce has to crawl forward, racking up fees along the way.
Deciding to divorce is a big step, a decision with life-altering ripples. Before making that decision, Illinoisans should consider what divorce can do for them and, just as importantly, what it cannot do. Doing so will better arm them to decide whether to go through the emotion and expense of the process.