Just because you know your marriage isn't working any more doesn't mean that you want a long, drawn-out, painful divorce that involves a lot of fighting. Whether you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse are hoping to end your marriage on good terms and even stay friends, or whether you both simply want to get the divorce process over with as quickly and painlessly as possible, a messy divorce rarely benefits anyone.
Sometimes, though, no matter how eager you both are to make the process swift and straight-forward, you may suddenly find yourself in the midst of a complicated and emotional legal battle without even being sure how you got there. Fortunately, there are a few tips to help save the time, money and stress that otherwise might accompany a chaotic and stressful divorce.
Simple and swift
When it comes to keeping the divorce process uncomplicated, going the uncontested route is key. This means that both you and your partner generally agree on the main elements involved, like property division. Other ways to keep the process as smooth as possible include:
- Being prepared
- Waiving the waiting period, where applicable
- Skipping the trial
As soon as you have met with your family law attorney, you'll want to get to work on gathering all necessary paperwork and filling out the required documentation. While it can be difficult to get along with your divorcing partner even in the most amicable divorce, — you are, after all, ending your marriage for a reason — if the two of you can commit to filling out paperwork by agreed upon (and timely) deadlines and can promptly respond to requests for information, the process can move forward more quickly.
To speed things along even more, hiring a mediator or calmly sitting down with your respective attorneys to work through any disagreements means that you can skip the courtroom, another benefit of an uncontested divorce.
Just like marriages involve compromise, so too do most successful divorces. The more you or your spouse procrastinates or holds out for demands, the longer the divorce will drag on, costing everybody time and money. Even the best divorce is going to be emotional, it's true, but by listening to your lawyer's advice and trying to keep a cool head, you may find that the things you were ready to fight for aren't worth the battle. Because in the end, isn't moving forward to a brighter future what matters most?