Getting divorced was not your dream when you got married. You may think of it only in a negative light, even if it’s what you and your spouse want and you know it’s the right decision — perhaps because you’re trapped in an abusive relationship, for example.
However, there are often positive things you can take away from the split. One thing that experts note, for instance, is that it could give you a chance to rediscover who you are. Many people find that they lost sight of that during the marriage, but being single again allows them to do the things they want to do and put more emphasis on themselves.
This isn’t selfish. Consider a marriage filled with financial abuse and emotional abuse, where one spouse doesn’t let the other make any monetary decisions. That person may have put aside hobbies, vacations and other aspirations. Finding financial freedom after such a divorce can be very liberating.
Experts do warn that even learning positive lessons can be hard. You’re splitting up assets, dividing time with the kids, and leaving that portion of your life behind. It’s a big change and it signifies the end of what you once hoped would be a happy future together.
However, remember that there can be positive takeaways from your divorce, and how you view it is up to you. At the same time, make sure you consider all of your legal options for things like child support, child custody and spousal support, working to make your post-divorce life everything that you want it to be.
Source: Lifehack, “7 Lessons I Have Learned from Divorced People,” Sy Ndes, accessed April 11, 2017